Would you recomend this for your husband?

Masterbation and lots of it? You know, when sex is not available due to 2 kids including a newborn? I have been doing it forever but lately have felt some pain in my private area and am worried that I might have early signs of cancer? I'm 26 and heard that plenty of excercise down there will help fight prostate cancer. Would you be comfortable with all these situations to tell him this is a good idea? How would you help him? Magazines, movies, internet?

Would you recomend this for your husband?
The first thing I would do is go to a doctor and see why there is so much pain especially at that age. it could be nothing more than an enlarged prostate or an infection somewhere.





As far a masturbation is concerned, I never heard of someone playing with themselves for medical reasons BUT FOR SEXUAL REASONS GO FOR IT.
Reply:issues....lots of issues here
Reply:I'd recommend seeing a doctor.
Reply:Masterbation is normal... Go to a Dr for your lower extremity pain... Good luck w/that
Reply:masturbation is healthy but when pain is involved, that can't be good. GO SEE YOUR DOCTOR.
Reply:You're on a slippery slope so to speak. Do not encourage that. You want him to depend on himself and thoughts of other women to satisfy himself, when sex is your opportunity to be close and develop a bond with your husband. Thoughts lead to actions, and he'll get tired of just thinking about other women, and to top it off, he won't have a sexual closeness with you. And for men, when there's no sexual closesness, there's no emotional closeness. I have 6 children. Believe me there were plenty of times that I didn't want anything to do with sex. In fact, when I was your age, we just didn't and it took a toll on our marriage. We ended up making a deal that when he really needed to, he could make a pass, and I wouldn't say no. Acting begrudging defeats the purpose as it's a total turnoff. So, he made fewer passes, and I did my best to keep him happy. Before long, the kids were a little older, the new baby stage was over, I wasn't as tired, our marriage was strong, and I started to really enjoy sex again. It will happen, believe it or not. But when you're ready, you want your husband to be there. As for the pain... it's probably just that you're not well lubricated. Use some K-Y. You may have a small tear from trying and not being well lubricated and it will take some time to heal. If you still have a problem see your doctor. Meanwhile, you can help him in other ways yourself so that your husband isn't made to feel like a slimey sex addict. He's normal to want it, you're normal to not right now. Deal with it lovingly.
Reply:That's a toughie...my hubby masterbates all the time. Sex or no sex! LOL It helps relax him before bed if we're not getting it on. And when we didn't for a few months because of the baby then he had no problem taking care of it....even in front of me. If you can't have sex with him due to pain then you can't...but you can always do other stuff with him. You can help him masterbate, give him a nice rub down. If you're too tired which could be understandable with 2 little ones then just do it every few days or something so that you're not getting any distance between the two of you.





I also wouldn't really go to him and say...I have pain, don't want to have sex, so please masterbate instead. That might come across wrong. Maybe just explain to him that you're having these pains, tell him what your concerns are and hope he understands. You can mention that you're okay with him masterbating if that's what he like to do. (Which I'm sure he does, because everyone does) But this way you're not telling him to go do it, you're suggesting it and leaving the ball in his court.





In the meantime...I would definitely go to the doctors to see whats wrong. =)
Reply:Yup, definitely you need to see DR. Winkie....
Reply:No. Part of being a man and a husband is knowing when you have to suck it up. If you are worried you have a physical problem, get to a urologist and get checked out.

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