Couple dealing with prostate cancer?

my husband has prostate cancer for about a year now he is very affraid but will not talk about and will not let me help him. he will not let me go with him to the doctors office. i care for my husband very much and i love him very much i tell him all the time we have been married for 19 years now he tells me that he want a divorce and he says that we are seperated with out me even knowing but he still comes when he wants to so i may see him once out of a two week period he also says that he does not love me any more but i know he does he is very affraide and also confused ever since he was diagnose with his cancer he will not go for counseling at least not with me question is ...........how can i get my husband back to me.

Couple dealing with prostate cancer?
Oh boy. Sounds like he's having a mid life crisis as well.





Prostate cancer is far far from a death sentence. In fact most men will develop it in some form in their lives and most of them will never even have any symptoms.





You might also consider that this may not be the only health or other issue that he has. He may be hiding something else.





All you can do is try to open any possible lines of communication. Be very careful to not put any pressure on him in the process as he sounds like he's at the breaking point already. In other words try hard to push your own needs and concerns aside. That's going to be hard I know. Maybe try writing him a letter or email?





Good luck.
Reply:Wow this is a tough question.....Can you set him down and let him know that you are just as scared for him as he is..And you really would like to be a part of what is going on.? It almost sounds as if he thinks that if he left you then if he dies you wont be as hurt.......That in someway he is saving you.....Not so sure....sorry
Reply:There is no a whole lot you can do but try to talk calmly and rationally about it. Prostate cancer is ot necessarily a death sentence, but it is if nothing is done about it. I saw a friend of mine father die a horrible death because he did not get the prostate cancer treated. Men can get all out of shape because they think they are going to lose their manhood, but my understanding is this is not always the case. Try to convince him you are trying to help so he can live a long normal life. As I have read on several occasions most men die with prostate cancer not from it.
Reply:First: See what you can find out about nutritional support. Garlic is a natural antibiotic, blueberries fight cancer, as does vitamin C (you can take up to 3000mg of C daily), in divided doses, etc...





Go online and see what you can find out about him incorporating a healthy diet and good multi-vitamin with mineral into his daily routine.





Your man's immune system is failing. Ultimately, the body will strive to regain health.





He needs a minimum of 8 hours sleep every night.





He needs to not allow himself stress in his life.





He needs to boost his endorphin and seratonin levels, which helps support the immune system. In english: He needs to laugh.





Help him to find his balance, his karma, his center. Meditation helps. Visualization helps. He needs to envision himself as healthy.





I've had two cancerous tumors removed, about 5 years apart. When people would ask how I was I'd say, "Well, other than the cancer, I'm perfectly healthy."





To date, 4 years since the last one, I'm perfectly healthy.





Also research Pau d'Arco. Have him discuss it with his doctor. Pau d'Arco inhibits tumors. There are a host of other "tumor inhibiting" herbs...I liked this one.





And he may want to consider doing a de-tox, de-toxification where you try to eliminate as much of the "negative" toxins and stuff your body stores. You can pick up a bottle of de-tox at GNC or Wal Mart, most any pharmacy will carry it, and you don't need an Rx.





Usually a de tox will consist of a group of roots and herbs like Red Clover Leaf, Burdock Root and Ginger, to name a few.





Once he decides he's going to start the bottle, and you only need to do this Once, then he wants to consider incorporating a bland and soft diet, so he's not taxing his kidneys, liver and digestive system. He needs to drink more than 8 glasses of water every day, to help with eliminating toxins. And he needs to do this until he finishes the bottle. Then go full swing into your nutritional support. Eat healthy meals, incorporate your vitamins and minerals and herbs and Garlic. (I find Ginger to be Too Strong, but if he likes it, he can eat ginger in his diet.)





As far as your personal relationship with him goes, cancer is incredibly personal....you face your own mortality, you want to protect the ones you love, you shake in your boots, and you turn your face to God.





He isn't going to be able to focus on you right now. Let him come. Learn how to give him a good back rub. Make sure you have this information printed out for him. Serve a nutritious, cancer-fighting meal.





Give him some tools for survival.





Rent a comedy. See to it that he gets his dose of laughter while he's there, ...and when he wants to go, tell him you love him, everything is going to be just fine, and you will wait for him. (Remember those stress levels, bring them down.)





Check out the link below for starters.....





I wish you luck, Nubia,


God bless you and yours, dear...